10 Things a woman wants to hear ! #3WordsSheWantsToHear

Men always keep wondering what’s going on in a woman’s head. to prove that is the latest block buster movie ‘ Gone girl’ starting scene where Ben Affleck asks His wife’ what are you thinking? ‘. Have you always wondered what a woman is thinking? What did she want to hear ?  What could you tell her to make her feel good ?
Well well twitter for one reason knows exactly what she wants to hear ! You might have seen that #3wordsSheWantsToHear has been trending on twitter since yesterday and still going strong on the trending topics.

Most of the men out there would agree that when it comes to compliments and sweet nothings, we women can never have enough of it. The more we get them, the more we want! Haha , its women nature I guess. But although some of the men are pretty sure they know what they want to say (because you, bless you, are an incredibly thoughtful man) you always end up telling the wrong thing to her.
Lets look at a few commandments or let me put these phrases in just 3 words for you!  Most of the words I listed below are things I love to hear when I am with a man. And most of these phrases would probably please most ladies, but I could potentially be a little bias. *wink wink*
Thought I would share some of my favorite things that I love to hear in phrases with just 3 words ;)
1. You are perfect : Nobody is perfect so what? Hasn’t she done a whole lot of things and made sure you were happy and taken care of every single time? Be it your mom or your loving wife. Say it ! You are an angel, you are lovely, You are the best mom, you amaze me are a few other synonymic phrases for this ;)Don’t be stingy when it comes to wooing her with a shower of compliments. The more you give, the more you are likely to get in return.

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2. You lost weight : Ahem ahem. A few years back I would have laughed if someone said me that this phrase would actually top second in my ‘things she wants to hear list’ but now that I have followed the footsteps of Vidya Balan :p this phrase sounds like music to my ears ! Not that I am fat or something but losing weight is what a woman works hard for. So if you think she has lost even a kilo gram ,you compliment her !
3. I love you: Even the savviest single woman melt at the thought of hearing her man utter those three little words. I believe only a few men realize or appreciate the power of saying “I love you.” You boy remember that by saying those three magic words (and by it say it only when you really mean it!), you are acknowledging an attachment to your woman and satisfying her most basic emotional need ie to know how her man feels about her and she loves to hear it! Again and again !

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4. I was wrong: Yeah baby ! You were wrong, she was right. Say that. Again. Haha .
5. Its on sale ! : SALE ! MAN how much we love this word ! All shopping sites please note if you want our attention put the damn thing on SALE ! I go wreck less when it comes to shopping during sale season. End up emptying everything :D

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6. You over football* : *replace Football with anything your man is obsessed with here*
You love cricket, we understand it. You love blah blah and blah. Shut it. We know it. They are your hobbies or your players or something you love. We women get it. But we are women. We need attention. We need all the love you can ever give. Choose us. Over them. That’s it. We are not telling you to stop loving all of those other things but once in a while say these 3 magical words, they make us women feel better !Okay?
7. I bought cake : Or Ice-cream ! Aaaah ! Ice cream or be it cake or be it cupcake or be it luxurious chocolates or be it flowers the word bought is something we women lurvvvv ! :D We are always open for free pizzas and free cake just like men are always open for free beer ;) Give a girl her favorite pastry or her favorite ice cream and she can even kill for you ;)
8. Take my credit-card : You giving us women free consent to shop to our hearts content? We love it . Period. But make sure you give it whole heartedly and trustingly ! Its another whole new thing that she knows how much to spend ! She will not bankrupt you but she loves the idea of her man wanting to spend on her!
9. Let me cook : Break the Indian stereotype of looking at women ! She is looked as a housewife and its great that she loves to cook ! But hey once in a while she needs a break too. If you come across a time where you see her tired or if she has more on her hands than she can take it offer to cook for her and the whole family too ! Not just your wife , be it your mother , your sister or even your best friend ! It shows you care and who knows you might end up with a bunch of compliments at the end of your cooking venture ;)
10.Be my bride : Call me old fashioned but there is this special thing about getting married , and it just gets better when your man bends on a knee and proposes you with a diamond ring! I think I am bitten by the Geet syndrome (remember the chirpy OTTP Kareena Kapoor in Jab we met?). You love each other, that’s great but that doesn’t mean you take her for granted and go ahead with a marriage. Ask her out , make her feel special and then pop the question even though you know you both are getting married, it will make her happy ! Women love it !

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So women do you relate to any of these? And men how many of you agree? ! Raise your hands.
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Honesty empowers. The truth sets you free..

“The truth will set you free…’'

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It is true that once you have lied its difficult to trust, even more difficult to trust oneself to tell the truth the next few times. Not telling truth puts you in 3 stages of Accountability, Guilt, and Forgiveness.
from childhood we are taught moral values and the importance of telling the truth but when time hits the truth often shakes or maybe the truth seems mediocre.
So when Kinley came up with the thing where we had to narrate the time where we felt being honest was the right thing to do the first instance where lies affected me hugely popped up, first year of college!
It was a time of new experiences , new friends, new place . Everything around was new. There were expectations. There was innocence. And there was fear. Fear that the person might judge us on the basis of our percentage scored in the boards. Fear that our frenemies would laugh at us when they heard we did not get admission in a far better college than we were selected in and so on.
That is how everything begun…The journey of lies and some more lies.  From a different angle it had to be the society which was to be blamed.
All those annoying relatives who never called even if met with an accident calling accidently to know are grades after the boards and brooding and lecturing on what we should select for better careers. I had enough of it, and that is how the lies began, to shut their mouths. The worst of all , it was my so called friends whom I had to lie the most. Lies about how it was difficult to get a seat in science field, lies about the college campus, lies about how this and that and some more lies.
And one day just like that after getting inspired ( not to forget it was some movie I don’t even remember of and a book by the name ‘You Can Win'’ ) I woke up with guilt that would just not budge. What was I doing? Why was I suffering? Everything was backfiring. In the web of lies I had weaved I felt like I was choking. As if there was no escape.
And then I realised , but slowly that I did no have to bend, I did not have to  water it down. Everything did not have to go according to the plan. My soul was suffering. Just like the girl in the add was not getting any sleep. And I decided I did not have to edit my own soul according to the way the cruel world wanted it to. Rather, follow my heart.
I broke up from self pithy and started comparing my life to the less worthy ones, and life seemed so much better. Every time the subject of career and college approached I put on my best smile and told truth, proudly. The endless stupid remarks and comments did not stop, but those comments did not stop me from rising above everything either ! I felt at peace, like I was ready to conquer the whole world. That much power the truth had.
And after so many years I am happy I understood that telling the truth was the right thing to do when I was in the worst stage of my life. And it gets better in knowing that all that who teased and threw insults on my way up where far far behind me…
And now I hardly remember a time where I did not tell the truth *all smiles*

I loved the the new TVC of Kinley where you learn a lesson how the truth will set you apart, will set you at ease...

This post is a part of Kinsley’s ‘Kitna Chain hota hai na sach mein’ activity on Indiblogger.

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Magic of Vacations- Children !

A good vacation is a vacation with kids…

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The roars of laughter , the mischief, the storming, the banter , the voice , the smiles of our children is what counts when we are going on a vacation. A vacation with family is the best vacation.
Our parents often took vacations only when we had summer holidays , just not that back in our childhood, our elders made sure all the big weddings took place during the kids vacations so everybody could enjoy their holidays with children. Children just add the magical touch ! A vacation without them would be empty!
And hence as we grew up we got accustomed to the belief that there’s no vacation without the kids. But in order to make sure that the trip planned is fun , safe and enjoyable its important to ensure a few things.
A few things to keep in mind while travelling with kids to ensure they enjoy themselves would be their safety, how they must be entertained in order to not get them snapping and out of control (trust me this is where they have second thoughts on the vacation thing with kids ;) , the travel and the food . etc.
Safety first: Safety is definitely the first measure when it comes to travelling with kids. You can’t enjoy a vacation when you know your kids aren’t safe. Pack all you need, the medications, the snacks and talk to your kids about safety if your travelling by air. And most importantly never let your kids out of sight, saves you a lot of trouble and worry.
Travel Trip tricks : Make sure you get your children to catch their quality sleep when travelling ! it really helps. The food will help them to take it off to the sleep spot. Hence its important you schedule your trip accordingly.
Entertainment, entertainment and some more entertainment : You have no idea how fast kids get bored, ha forget the kids I get bored even faster than them , wait I am a grown up kid too. :P That is why I get bored ! *realisation* Jokes apart they really tend to get bored very fast and its important to take the important measures. Animated movie Dvd’s , scrabble or chess boards and story books are a great way!
Feed the fairies: Food my dear is what seals the deal for us children ;) Good food and half of the travelling has already been awesome :P :D The problem is that kids are picky. “I don’t like sweets “(So annoying! –.- ) “I don’t eat ice cream “(I would kill such kids! , I mean what on earth ! You don’t like icecream?! what the hell honey?!) “I dislike veggies” ( Yeah baby that’s more like it ! Hifi!) So you see. That’s the problem. Make sure you have restaurants nearby to suit the food tastes of your kids
Stay at a sweet ( suite;) place : Also its important to keep in mind about the place you’ll be staying at. Kids can create a big fuss, so its better not to choose a posh , upscale hotel will probably not be as kid-friendly  , so its better to use our correct judgment while choosing one. Choose among the best of best that has all the amenities to keep your kids entertained.
And now I just can’t wait for the vacations. ^_^

This post is a part of Indi Happy hours in relation to Club Mahindra’s Teddy travelogue’s !

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Giving risk a new dimension : Rise Above Fear !

The world we live in is a delicate one. Every step we take is filled with uncertainty and fear. It is easy to see why we end being inclined to play it safe all the time. But how long before the bubble bursts ? How much longer can you stay away from facing your fears? Someday your fears which you kept ignoring will turn up on you on your face and make sure you are ready for that .
Always playing it safe has risk as well. If you never dare to fail you can almost feel that your goals in life are on a very low. Most of us underestimate our merit and our ability to recover from failure, leading to pass up valuable opportunities. High time we realized that the best way to eliminate fear is to take up all those risks we were avoiding with so much vigor !
We are always surrounded by fears but that doesn’t mean we can’t give it a try ? Does it? I however am happy to share with you that I have always believed in taking risks be it the fear of those deadly exams, or the fear of what others would think or the fear of never winning or even the fear of not making it BIG. But hey now when I look back it just feels so silly. In other words I want to laugh at having even thought twice on taking those daring risks because all the while I knew the real in me is the brave heart and dauntless, wanting to take chances and stepping on uncertainties. Its who I am , and its who you should be too.
When you are a girl, people automatically end up expecting thousand times things more than a girl would have the potential off ! I mean if you are a girl you are bound to be good at household work, cleaning, Cooking*, etc. And here is where the fear begins, what if I don’t excel in all of these, what if I end up being a bad cleaner or even worse a bad cook? That is exactly what happened with me. For a long time I was bat-shit scared about how people would react to my bad cooking but then Allah had other plans for me.
Every time my mom complained how I would stay away from the kitchens I would make a face and get away by joking about how I would marry a cook, but the fear was always there. Not because I would get a stupid husband but if I really wasn’t capable of a simple stupid thing , cooking! I am huge foodie and the thing that I couldn’t cook for myself was a big No for me, so guess what after a lot of tweeting and blogging I repeat yes I took to social media to rant how bad I was at cooking , I kicked the fear away !
I started participating food blogging contests, Read every article on how to make cooking food a joyful and happy incident. I searched more ways to get motivated, I burnt all those boats of uncertainty.
And then I finally stepped into the Kitchens. And no my mom did not actually faint when I cooked y very first awesome ! Haha !Slowly step by step I conquered my fears. If people would criticise I would listen, take notes in my mind and make every effort to not repeat the again and believe e cooking is the easiest of them all for me now!
That’s not all after a few attempts , my parents and my family started complimenting and then I knew it ! I just knew it ! I could excel in anything if I wanted too ! I knew I had to take all those risks I was ignoring! And now my wish list hold a convection oven ! Yes , I am now looking forward to baking ! Baking all those delicious cupcakes and cakes I would drool when I visited a store. Not anymore I am so much better after I faced my fears. After which I gave it a try and faced many more fears, so yes cooking has been a life turning experience of mine just as working on their vertigo’s the South super hotties got over their fear of height's!
Oh well I am talking about the new Dew commercials! Mountain dew add are so much Love!  Everytime they release an add and you can’t help but fall in love with them ! Same goes for their new add that went live two days back!

This video radiates so much energy !
When confronted with fear Arya and Akhil chose to. #RiseAboveFear. Watch impeccable courageousness shown by actors!
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So how many you have actually given a try to overcome your fear with so much brevity?!
Do tell me in the comments, they’ll make my day !
Until next time.
Love
Najm.

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Time to raise our voices. NOW. (Swachh Bharath)

There are many instances where we come across such things where we know they’re absolutely wrong and you cannot help but raise your voice against it ! If I start listing down those social issues where people like me and you should stand up and speak up against, it’ll probably take forever.  It can be a random guy urinating in public , or a woman spitting out beetle remnants or  someone littering the roads shamelessly.

So when do we put a stop to all of this? Akhir Kab bolega yeh Desh? Strepsils has come up with an innovative way to spread awareness among the nation. And I am glad to be a part of it.  We know that raising our voices against all that is bad in our country is a power that we all have. Let’s put that in use and the power of our voice & work towards a Swachh Bharat.
Kyuki Bin Bole Ab Nahi Chalega #AbMontuBolega !
Afterall who wouldn’t agree that we all know when we need to speak up for a cause ! It might also happen that we could end being the first person to stand up for something which you must. Also its true that a single person cannot make the whole of the nation clean. Cleanliness is next to godliness. And its true to its word.
No matter what happens we must thrive to speak up when it comes to swachhta of our motherland! I would inevitably raise my voice against the following 5 social causes :

Speak up when someone is cutting down trees !

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I love nature and all the beauty it has gifted us with. And when someone tries to destroy them I can’t help but feel my blood boiling. I almost got into a fight with a house owner in my neighborhood when he got a tree cut down, I did not want to give damn that they had permission for it. It was strong and beautiful tree from ages and on the roadside! Not like it was in the middle of your site or something. I wish more people could speak up when trees where cut down because last time I raised my voice for it , I remember it was all by myself. yes , nobody I repeat nobody stood up with me and the dumb owner got away with the brutal act of murdering a beautiful life. If there are no trees how do you think we will have a clean India? Time to think.

Raise your voice when you see someone littering :

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The whole nation is buzzing with the Swachh Bharth campaign started by PM Narendra Modi. One must raise their voice but most importantly we ourselves have to stop littering (that includes me) So the next time you see someone throwing away chocolate wrappers or waste polythene bags or any other waste, go to that person and speak up. Let us all be a part of this noble cause and make our country a better place to live in!

Raise your voice when you see people smoking in non smoking areas:

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So Govt is doing everything from banning sale of lose cigarettes to fining , but the waery masses fail to understand this. They continue to smoke thinking it might look cool (Not including those who call death upon themselves by telling its their addiction) I have seen guys in my campus smoking and how I wish I had the strength to speak up ! But I am always warned to keep away ( Rowdy hai mat ulajh blah blah)  Smoking is as injurious to someone who is not smoking, but is standing beside someone who smokes. We must make use of the law which states smoking in public is banned, and speak up when you see someone smoking in public or at places where smoking is banned. It pathetic to see people smoking in hospitals and child play areas ! High time we put a stop it!

Raise your voice when you see someone pelt stones at the street dogs:

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Not just pelting but I have seen spoilt teens burst crackers near street dogs and make fun of them !  This should stop. Seriously abusing animals is not fun. Beating them or hurting them because you think it is funny is not a joke. Throwing stones at animals cannot be accepted. STOP it, and speak up.

Raise your voice against dowry:

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I had no idea how badly India was affected with dowry cases until I watched Dawat e ishq two months back. The cases of exploitation of women because of dowry demands keep coming every day. Again, this is an illegal thing but it is very much persistent. Stand up, and speak up against it.
High time we realised the importance of speaking up.Time to STOP being a silent spectator NOW. Let’s speak up. Speak up for a clean and happy India.
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Blog to feed a child. Elimination of classroom hunger.

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Children are a nation’s most important resource and promoting their health through schools can both reduce common health problems and make the education system more efficient, leading to economic development.
India with the most leading population makes poverty a norm. And poverty results in child labor . How many children have you seen who ditch school in order to work and feed themselves . Food always thumbs knowledge. When a mind is hungry it can not think of anything. Who can argue on that? And hence this is where Akshaya Patra drops by, the mid day meal scheme started by them has helped so many young minds get back to schooling.

It is proved that rather than attending school, many children tend to earn money to bring food to their family's table, foregoing long-term opportunities to focus on short-term necessities. resulting in poor health and educational outcomes that trap them in the cycle of poverty.
I remember visiting a government school after 7 years near by my place only to find out that , the school which seemed deserted for almost 3 years was surprisingly full with children then. It was later I learnt that the school was funded and it practiced the mid day meal programme. The children who came to this school were from very poor families who cannot afford a single nutritious meal to their children and often end up sending their children to work instead of sending them to school. I also recall a 11 year boy saying ‘ kaam nahi karega to kya khayega?’ . This was the sad plight of the children in India, but after mid day meals have been introduced , thousands of children were allured into schools just so they could get a taste of a hot nutritious meal atleast once everyday !
Even research has shown that the Mid day meal scheme has boosted school attendance of girls  and
I really wish the scheme was practiced more and more by schools everywhere, this way illiteracy could be eradicated and so could hunger. Elimination of classroom hunger is the key factor to success.
 Similarly, children in city schools can be a part of this initiative by contributing Rs 100 every month. This small individual amount can make a big difference in the lives of many children who have a hard road for a plate of food.
I am going to #BlogToFeedAChild with Akshaya Patra and BlogAdda.

Really I salute BlogAdda for taking up such a initiative and joining hands with Akshaya Patra to end classroom hunger. For every blog post we write, BlogAdda will sponsor meals for an Akshaya Patra beneficiary for an entire year, as a part of their Bloggers Social Responsibility. Isn’t that wonderful? here is a chance where we can contribute to build a nation free from hunger and malnutrition. :)

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